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One of those things is to understand the different types of lesbians you might meet out in the pond. Another is to familiarise yourself with the various lesbian terms you might hear when speaking with others in the community. With this in mind, by no means is the idea of this article to offend anybody or to cram ourselves into a box. Here are some of the different kinds of lesbians you can expect to meet, as well as the most common lesbian terms. And the more progressive that society becomes, the more comfortable we are becoming in recognising our own unique identities.
I remember believing that I had to look, dress, and act a certain way if I wanted to be a valid member of the community. One day I might feel more femme; on others, I might feel more of a tomboy. Remember, sexuality and identity can be fluid, regardless of what people might tell you otherwise. A lipstick lesbian, otherwise known as a femme lesbian, is famed for being the most feminine variety of our species. Another name for them could be camouflage lesbians, as they confuse both straight and gay people by looking just like straight women!
Most of the femmes I know get incredibly frustrated by this. But they are strong-minded and refuse to change their appearance just to fit in. They embrace their queerness and their feminity equally. If you decide to date a lipstick lesbian, be prepared to woo her. Dress to impress, compliment her on how she looks, and shower her with attention. Oh and be nice to her friends, because they will be judging you! On the polar opposite end of the spectrum, we have the butch lesbians. Our beloved butches get a bad rep and are often accused of wanting to be men or being man-haters.
When actually, they are just women. Women challenging the social norms of how a woman is expected to be. Not only that, they are complete badasses. You can only ever hope to be as cool as them when you grow up.
If you want an easy-going lesbian relationship, a butch lesbian is your safest bet. A lesbian term created by the one and only Ellen Degeneres, a chapstick lesbian sits on the spectrum somewhere between a butch, a femme, and a boi lesbian. And could sway more to either side depending on how they feel on the day. Chapsticks are most likely to be wearing chinos, shirts, and brogues on a night out.
And trendy jeans, trainers, and hoodies during the day. They always look super stylish and will likely sport an edgy short haircut that they will say is their staple feature. Cute and charismatic, these girls have a loyal group of friends and have no problem attracting a partner. If you want to win the heart of a chapstick, make her laugh and be down to earth.
As the name suggests, a Boi lesbian is typically very boyish-looking. They are way too timid to be butch and not as fashionably fluid as chapsticks, so Boi is the term they use to define themselves. If you want to date a boi lesbian, it will probably help if you are a few years older than them. Bois tend to like the company of older women. With their razor-sharp jawlines, incredible tattoosflawless hairstyleand buckets of sex appealalphas can turn even the straightest of women.
The alpha is the type of lesbian many of us aspire to be but often fail miserably. But on the bright side, they are a rare breed of lesbian. And those you do come across seem to be extremely unapproachable. The mystery of how to pull an alpha is yet to be solved. And when they do, you will know about it. Suggested Read : 40 Epic Lesbian Hairstyles. All hail the activist lesbian! This superhuman type of lesbian is out there on the front line, helping to protect the rights of our entire community.
They believe in liberty and justice for all. And it will be crucial to our progression in the future. We believe that we can all play our part in activism. And the more of us who get involved, the better! A stone butch lesbian sports the same characteristics as a butch lesbian; however, they are known to be strictly givers in the bedroom. Their pleasure is derived from pleasuring their partners, and they rarely expect anything in return.
On the opposite side of the coin of the stone butches, we have our pillow princesses. These high maintenance types of lesbian love to be the recipients of sex. But getting them to return the favour is like getting blood out of a stone. It would be like getting a finger-bashing from Freddy Kreuger!
She regularly plays football, probably owns a skateboard, and should probably be an ambassador for Vans. If you want to date a sport lesbian, her ideal date will be bowling or mini-golf, or some other competitive activity. That is if you can pin her down, of course. Her calendar is grid-locked with sports tournaments, training, and hitting the gym.
So prepare for some serious competition in every sense of the word. They could be an emo or a goth, or they could simply dye their hair in whacky colours. This type of lesbian stands out in a crowd for me. They usually boast some interesting tattoos or piercings, can always be seen having fun, and are confident without being pretentious. And so long as you nurture her free-spirited nature, rather than tame it, she will love you fiercely and deeply.
They are considered the purest breed of our kind and wear their gold star as a badge of honour. I say give a gold star to everyone on the spectrum. Again, this term has a slightly malicious connotation and could be deemed discriminative against the bisexual and pansexual communities. And we should all feel free to follow our hearts without fear of judgement from others in the community.
But use it in a lighthearted manner. A power lesbian is usually the term used to describe a woman who is influential and well-respected amongst the community. She is generally highly successful, and despite her sexuality, has excelled in her line of work.
Her job could be anything — a police officer, a sports star, a politician, or a lawyer. But power lesbians are an inspiration, as they remind us that anything is possible. They are crushing stereotypes and rising above bigotry, to show the world we are here. You know what they say. Women are like spaghetti. It can be quite exhilarating flirting and experimenting with a straight woman. But take a few wise words from somebody who knows, and tread carefully. Take care of that precious rainbow heart of yours. But thankfully, the predators among us are more than happy to help her do just that.
Basically, once they graduate, they are likely to put their debaucherous ways behind them and settle down with a man. These are the women who are as straight as an arrow. In my experience, this strange breed of lesbian can exist among your own group of acquaintances or even a family friend. Oh, those were the days! But historically, it was used in a derogatory way by people outside of the community.
So naturally, when I first came out as a lesbian, I thought the word was extremely offensive. Celesbian is a term used to describe lesbian celebrities. Dykon is a term used to define those who are considered icons amongst the lesbian community.
They could be celebrities, but not necessarily. Joke : What do lesbians bring to a second date? The joke pokes fun at the stereotype that lesbians become emotionally invested in a relationship very quickly. Joke : Where do lesbians celebrate their one year anniversary? LBD is an abbreviation for Lesbian Bed Death — A horrifying term that refers to a lack of intimacy between lesbian couples.
So, thankfully we got this solid relationship advice from our good friends and sexperts Breaking the Distance, on how to avoid the dreaded LBD. Getting ready for the holidays? It could be your needy friend who demands your attention at all times. Or it could that overprotective friend that refuses to let her hot friend speak to you.
Another common lesbian joke is that many of us tend to pick partners that look similar to ourselves. If you can relate, then you, my friend, are a dopplebanger. Natalie and I have been told on several occasions that we look like sisters. And sometimes even twins.
Queer is a term used for any sexual and gender minorities who are not heterosexual or cisgender. Thank you for reading! We hope you enjoyed this list of the various types of lesbians and phrases. Be sure to let us know if you have any others that you think need to be on this list. You can reach out to us in the comment section below or through our. Disclosure: Some of the links in this post are affiliate links.
That means that if you purchase through these links, we will earn a small commission, at no extra cost to you. And we can continue bringing you free travel tips and advice. If you found the content helpful and are kind enough to use our affiliates — you are awesome, and we thank you! Re: 8 Pillow Princess, the word you want is recipients, not reciprocators. Great Article… I learned much. I often wonder how trans-man- woman who are now man and identify as man fit into the category of Lesbian- I currently have some one close to me who transitioned and only identifies asman.
How could this article implement gender-non conforming, non-binary, genderfluid and intersex. Hi Melvin. You make a great point. Marsha P. Related posts:. Gifts for Lesbians: 30 Ideas for the Holigay Season. The Best Lesbian Tattoo Ideas. Hahaha… Thank you so much for pointing out the typo! Was this helpful? We would love to hear your thoughts, suggestions or any questions in the comments below! Cancel reply.Soft butch wants
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